60-sec infidelity quiz to determine your online relationship
An expert has come up with a 60-second reality check quiz to make sure whether people who what you're doing is really innocent and harmless online friendship, or if they're slipping down the slippery slope toward emotional sex.
The new kind of infidelity that's destroying marriages and wreaking havoc among committed couples is emotional sex, which is a more insidious kind of infidelity that was born out of the digital era of the 21st century, the Huffington Post reported.
The key to taking the quiz by Sheri Meyers, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles and author of 'Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love, and Affair-Proof Your Relationship', is whether the 3 S's are present - Shared intimacy, Secrecy and exclusion, or Sexual chemistry.
Shared Intimacy - exchanging personal, intimate, and confidential information with an online "friend" that your partner doesn't know about, giving more and more time, attention and emotional support to your "friend" and less to your partner at home, beginning to emotionally or physically withdraw from your partner, preferring to spend time away, online, talking or texting with your "friend", constantly checking to see if your "friend" has made contact or continually trying to come up with ways to connect and have contact, and feeling high and happy when connected with your "friend" and low and lonely when you''ve been disconnected for too long.
Secrecy and Exclusion - hiding your correspondence with your "friend" from your partner, becoming secretive or evasive about your activities, changing your passwords, getting new anonymous email addresses, setting up fake profiles, joining a dating or cheating hook-up site, avoiding getting into serious conversations with your partner, pretending to be single when you're not, and spending a large amount of time talking, sharing, confiding with your friend and not telling your partner about it or worse lying about who you are with.