How lying can help your love life from falling apart
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Even in good relationships, trust is shaky, as having complete and total confidence in a partner seems to be a struggle for most of us, a new study has found.
Only 39 per cent of women, according to the Normal Bar data, completely trust their partners, compared to 53 per cent of men, the Huffington Post reported.
It may be that a lot of couples intuitively know or have learned by experience that their spouse or live-in partner has the potential to rove.
Women in heterosexual relationships know the same thing that many studies have shown - that men are more interested in and titillated about sex outside the relationship, and that may account for a higher per centage of women who doubt their partner's honesty and fidelity.
On the other hand, nearly half of men suspect their partners, too. Both men and women believe that their partners will hide unpleasant truths, and that they may have to dig to find out what is really going on.
Nearly three-quarters of our respondents (75 per cent of men and 71 per cent of women) said that they lie to their partners to one degree or another.
Only 27 per cent of the respondents said they never ever lie.
Even among extremely happy couples, 69 per cent of men and women said that they've lied at some point to their partners.
But the fact that very happy partners lie demands some further scrutiny.
For most couples, some lying is necessary to keep the peace, to protect each other's feelings, and to preserve a sense of safety in the relationship.
The 27 per cent who never lie may be righteous, but they can also be cruelly frank.
Men and women who shade the truth may be more loving and protective.
Even well-intentioned lies, however, can hurt the relationship if the truth that's withheld is something the partner has every right and need to know.