How lying can help your love life from falling apart

Love and trust

Knowing when a lie is reasonable and when it is reprehensible isn't always an easy call.

Relationships are supposed to be open, sharing, and honest. But 59 per cent of men and 56 per cent of women lie about their feelings.

Half of all partners not only stifle their emotions but also give misleading feedback about what's going on in their head and heart.

As you might guess, people who are less happy lie the most. In fact, 72 per cent of unhappy partners choose not to share their true feelings with their partners.

Whether this emotional deception is a cause or an effect of the overall unhappiness, it makes it very difficult to fix the relationship.

The surprising finding, however, is that 48 per cent of extremely happy partners also lie about their feelings.

Also, just as men are more likely to tell white lies about their partner's appearance, women are more likely to flatter their partner's sexual performance.

The study found that 43 per cent of women lie about how they feel about their partner's sexual performance, compared to just 28 per cent of men.

That's probably not because women are better lovers but, rather, because they feel a greater need to protect their partner's feelings.

When a man feels insecure, he may have difficulty getting an erection, so it's in his partner's—as well as his—interest to boost his sexual self-esteem.

The bad news here is that some honest communication has to take place; otherwise, nothing is likely to improve.

As you might imagine, sexually dissatisfied men and women lie almost twice as much (50 per cent) as sexually satisfied partners (27 per cent).

If you talk openly and honestly with your partner about what isn't working, you're much more likely to achieve sexual satisfaction than if you salve your partner's sexual feelings at the expense of your own pleasure. Lying may cause fewer storms, but also fewer orgasms.

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