What kind of lover are you


There are six different ways you can be "in love" and knowing your style can help you evaluate your relationship, say experts.

Susan Hendrick says knowing what kind of lover you are will help you have more realistic expectations about how love happens for you and how it evolves, according to Fox News.

Here are some descriptions to find your personal style, and learn how you can keep your relationship healthy and happy.

The first is the romantic, who love being in love.

If you are one of this you may be swept away by your new lover's looks or other appealing physical attributes and disappointed when he change over time.

But remember that true love doesn't recede with his hairline, and romance doesn't have to fade as the relationship matures.

To keep your relationship healthy plan dates, weekend getaways, or just-the-two-of-you vacations to rekindle the spark that ignited your relationship, suggests Pepper Schwartz, a sociology professor at the University of Washington in Seattle and relationship expert for Perfectmatch.com.

The second is the list-maker. You have criteria that are important, and you won't change them, Schwartz said.

Even if you're in a committed relationship, you may put too much pressure on your partner to live up to your standards.

In this case, the best thing to keep your love life happy is let go of the list.

Schwartz warns that clinging to those must-haves could mean a chafed relationship or a lonely life.

Next is the obsessive. Here you want to spend all your time with your partner. And you constantly worry about your relationship, even when you've been together for years.

Schwartz says this kind of partner can be overbearing or have highs and lows that drive her significant other crazy.

Don't crowd your lover, Schwartz suggested.

You may need to talk to a counselor who can help you understand why you feel so insecure and help you find ways to put your relationship in perspective, she noted.

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